Be Grounded In Love

March 4, 2026

Let’s make this easier to understand by using something familiar: horses and training.

The same situation can feel very different depending on what’s going on inside the rider.

Think about a challenge, like a horse that keeps losing balance, rushing, or refusing an exercise. The horse is the same. The problem is the same. But the rider’s inner state changes everything.

When a rider is living in fear or judgment, that challenge feels huge.

They might think, “I’m terrible at this,” or “This horse is broken,” or “This will never get better.” They may tense up, get angry, or shut down. Training stops moving forward because the rider feels stuck and overwhelmed.

The horse feels this immediately.

A tight, stressed rider creates a tight, stressed horse. The horse may resist, brace, or completely check out. Not because the horse is bad, but because the energy feels unsafe.

Other riders live in insecurity.

They may constantly second-guess themselves or compare their horse to others. They might overtrain, chase quick fixes, or buy things they don’t truly need just to feel “good enough.” The horse often becomes confused because the cues keep changing.

Some riders live in frustration or anger.

Every mistake feels personal. Every setback feels unfair. They blame the horse, the trainer, or the situation. The horse starts to protect itself because the environment feels unpredictable.

Now let’s look at what happens when the rider shifts into healthier themes.

A rider in accountability says, “This is my responsibility, and I can work through it.”

They don’t panic. They make a plan. They stay consistent. The horse starts to trust the process.

A rider in ease says, “This is where we are today, and that’s okay.”

There’s no rush. No pressure. The horse relaxes and movement improves because the body feels safe.

A rider in self-motivation sees the challenge as a chance to learn.

They get curious instead of frustrated. Progress becomes exciting instead of stressful.

A rider in understanding realizes that training takes time.

They stop asking, “What’s wrong?” and start asking, “What does my horse need right now?” The partnership deepens.

At the highest level, a rider grounded in love and calm doesn’t let problems define them.

They know setbacks don’t mean failure. They trust that growth will come. The horse feels supported, not forced.

This is a core principle of The Michelle Method.

We can give the same horse the same exercises, but if the rider’s inner world is chaotic, the results will be limited. When the rider does their inner work, the horse’s body changes faster and more safely.

And here’s the powerful part.

This doesn’t just help your horse.

When you learn to respond instead of react, that skill shows up everywhere. In your relationships. Your work. Your health. The way you handle stress. The way you speak to yourself.

Two people can face the exact same challenge.

One feels trapped.

The other sees opportunity.

The difference isn’t the situation.

It’s the theme they’re living in.

When you change your inner state, you change how you ride.

When you change how you ride, your horse changes.

And when you change that relationship, it ripples into every part of your life.

That’s why inner work isn’t extra.

It’s foundational.

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